“Fine.” People have asked hundreds of times how my family and I were doing — particularly my youngest son, Caeleb, given his hemophilia — and I’ve replied with that single word. Caeleb is now 15, and his hemophilia is under control. But several of his younger years were spent…

There is no shame in raising the white flag when caregiving challenges become too taxing. The white flag, an international symbol used when someone seeks a truce or ceasefire, usually is the last recourse after a long list of possibilities has been exhausted. For a parent or caregiver, it…

Rap sessions are common at bleeding disorder conferences. During these group discussions, people come together to talk about similar interests, such as a new diagnosis in the family, inhibitors, or what it’s like being a hemo parent. Facilitators help the participants ask questions of one another and have…

My youngest son, Caeleb, recently turned 15. A celebration with his favorite dinner accompanied by homemade chocolate-peanut butter cheesecake ushered in another year filled with goals and dreams. After Caeleb blew out the candles, he looked up and said, “In three years I’ll be out of the…

What does an illness look like? Sometimes a bald head, pale skin, or a mobility device are outward signs that someone has an illness. People would never know my sons have hemophilia by looking at them today. My oldest son, Julian, is 24. He lives on his own,…

A new year is always filled with possibilities and hope. After living through 2020, most people are looking forward to what is yet to come. While I am not one to make resolutions, there is one thing I will be working on this year. It does not involve me,…

Immunizations are sometimes tricky when a child has a bleeding disorder. The shots can cause bruising and swelling at the injection site, or even a muscle bleed. Each person is different, but nevertheless, precautions must be taken. When my children needed immunizations, I always gave them a dose of…

The coronavirus is turning lives upside down. A good friend recently tested positive, and when they told me, I was uncertain about how to respond. Should I say I’m sorry? That they will be OK? Not to worry? Knowing what to say isn’t easy. It reminds me of when…

Many people see spring as the season for cleaning. Winter months call for homes to be closed tightly to keep the heat in and the winter chill out. Spring allows for the opening of windows to clean the soot and grime that accumulates over the colder season. I normally do…

People are suffering. The country is divided. States are imposing limits on items that may be purchased, and businesses are closed. If there were ever a year to skip Thanksgiving, this would be it. At least, that is what some people think, but I am not one of them.