I’m 25 weeks pregnant. Now that I’ve passed the halfway point of my pregnancy, I’m full of thoughts about the future. What happens when I give birth? After I give birth? When it sinks in that we are parents?
Based on my ultrasound scans, it looks like we will have a daughter. My husband Jared and I agree that we will raise our baby girl in an unconventional manner. For example, we will not limit her to “girl” toys. Instead, we will encourage her to explore both the girls’ and boys’ sections of the toy store.
We have grown more attached to boys’ clothing for our future daughter. We’ve noticed that often girls’ clothing features slogans related to “looks” and “cuteness,” while boys’ clothing tends to feature messages about what the child could do or become.
We want our daughter to grow up to be an empowered woman. She will already have a huge responsibility ahead of her when she reaches adulthood because of hemophilia.
Jared and I are considering cord blood banking, which involves the collection of blood from our daughter’s umbilical cord and its storage in a freezer facility. Cord blood is rich in stem cells, which have an almost magical ability to grow into other types of cells. It would come in handy if she ever needed a stem cell transplant. Jared and I would hold the rights to our daughter’s cord blood until she turns 18. After this, she will decide what she wants to do with it.
The idea of cord blood banking gives us some peace of mind. We know stem cells have been used successfully to treat thalassemia, another bleeding disorder. We hope that someday a stem cell therapy will exist to treat hemophilia.
Jared’s hemophilia came from a spontaneous genetic mutation. If our future daughter eventually has a son, he will have hemophilia because his mother would be a carrier of the genetic mutation. Hemophilia will course through my daughter’s veins. Although she will not show any symptoms, any male children she has, will.
As her parents, we can’t help but worry for her. She will grow up with a dad who has hemophilia, so she’ll be used to dealing with it. But having a son with hemophilia is a huge emotional, financial, and personal responsibility.
Jared and I imagine the conversation we will have with our future daughter. We plan to recommend that she consider adopting rather than having natural-born children, although she would miss out on the joys and challenges of pregnancy. We think about how our future daughter’s attitude toward a life partner would be affected by the knowledge that she is a carrier of this disease.
Our heads are clouded by many questions right now. We can’t foresee how that conversation with our daughter will go. At least we have a few more years before it happens.
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