In the Twinkling of an Eye - a Column by Joe MacDonald

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Joe is the father of two sons with hemophilia. He and his wife, Cazandra, are active members in the bleeding disorders community and often facilitate workshops both locally and nationally. Joe is a pastor in the United Methodist Church and writes a blog about spirituality and faith. You may follow his blog at www.joekmac.com.

We Never Stop Learning

I often say that I wish there were a course titled “How to Be a Good Parent.” You would graduate with a diploma and the confidence that your book smarts would translate into perfect child-rearing. Nothing would hold you back. Unfortunately, that’s not real life. There might be training opportunities,…

The Joy of Serving in a Leadership Position

My wife and I met families with ties to the bleeding disorders community through our hemophilia treatment center (HTC). One day, Rita, the former chairwoman of our local National Hemophilia Foundation chapter, asked us to join the board of directors. I agreed, because who can say no to…

Unpacking a New Reality in the Silence

I will never forget the first time we visited my wife’s OB-GYN following the birth of “MacDonald the Older.” It was 1996, and the world of hemophilia looked much different than it does now. Synthetic products were making their way into the market. Nightmares regarding the “hemophilia…

The Eyes of ‘MacDonald the Older’

I look into my son’s eyes and see beauty. I see the vibrant green, which fades into a blue that rivals the sky. Down in the lower left part is a spot of brown that never changes. His eyes give us a reflection of his soul. Though change is all…

Wishing My Wife a ‘Happy Birthday’

Oct. 7, 2019, came and went like any other day. Our family went about our business: my son went to school, and I sat at my desk, planning my next sermon. But the day was special. It was the birthday of my wife, Cazandra, and it might have gone unnoticed…

The Lingering Effects of Recurring Joint Bleeds

Years ago, I watched my youngest son, “MacDonald the Younger,” as he struggled with recurring joint bleeds. Each episode took more of his mobility away. He could not extend his leg beyond 45 degrees because his knee was so full of blood, and he used a wheelchair for at least…

We All Need More Disney Moments

When “MacDonald the Younger” was 5, a social worker from the hemophilia treatment center gave his name to the Make-A-Wish Foundation. They granted my son’s wish to go to Disney World. I couldn’t believe that a 5-year-old child would want to go to a theme park filled with…

The Unwritten Rules of Processing Information

One of my favorite educational philosophers is Ruby Payne. Payne focuses on the unwritten rules of social classes and how various groups respond to and receive information. Payne suggests that the ways we communicate our needs depend largely on our environments. In other words, we are a product of…

Let Us Cross the Bridge

A few years ago, my family and I attended an inhibitor symposium in San Francisco. While the conference was jam-packed with incredible information, we did have a little free time to explore the city. Fisherman’s Wharf had great food and beautiful views of the harbor. We stood on a…

Hope in the Toughest of Circumstances

Yesterday, I went through the pictures on my iPhone. I started with the most recent, moving backward, my heart beating faster with each swipe. By the time I had viewed two years’ worth, anxiety had me in its grasp. I felt like I couldn’t breathe, and I stopped looking…