“We are uncomfortable with you around and struggle to be in your presence. We find that you talk too much and are self-centered. When you hosted dinner, you made us eat in an insulting location we did not like,” the person said. Defending myself, I said, “I am so sorry,…
The Forgotten Factor - a Column by G Shellye Horowitz
Out-of-pocket maximum: This term is used by health insurance companies to inform customers of the maximum amount they may have to pay in a year for covered medical care, excluding premiums. Once this maximum is reached, the insurance plan covers 100% of eligible medical expenses for the rest of the…
The first of my four alarms sounds at 6 a.m. Groggy, I roll over to turn it off, knowing I have 15 minutes until the next one goes off. I am a night owl and often let time slip away, crawling into bed after midnight. The next morning, I pay…
Planning for what happens after I die is such an uncomfortable topic that I want to run and hide. Somehow, just thinking about death makes it feel more real, even though I should have years of life left. Yet, I know that hemophilia A makes my life more fragile.
What would you rather do: have a day to relax all to yourself, or eat whatever you want and not gain weight? Many of us have seen memes asking similar questions. To be honest, until this summer, I would occasionally answer them without much thought. But after facing struggles with…
I surprised myself when I was in Montreal for a hemophilia conference in 2022. I decided to stay an extra day after the event to explore the city. I have to say, I found the most amazing gluten-free French pastry shop! The croissants and pain au chocolat were to…
I really hate asking for help. I have several theories why, but mostly, it boils down to a fear of inconveniencing others. Perhaps there are deeper causes, like needing to learn that I am worthy of accepting it and understanding that everyone deserves to have their needs met, both physically…
It’s finally happened: validation. The battle to get here was rough, but perseverance paid off. Seeing “Shellye, a patient with superior mesenteric artery syndrome (SMAS), presents for follow-up visit prior to surgical repair” written in my medical records made me want to cry. I felt the same way when…
It was the first rain of the season in 1978, and I was in kindergarten. Growing up in a low-income household meant that we were not always prepared, even when my parents wanted to be. I felt fortunate that my mom had a solution to keep my feet dry! She…
I had previously heard about the term health anxiety obsessive-compulsive disorder (also known as hypochondriasis or illness anxiety disorder), so one day I decided to research its symptoms. Frequent visits to doctors and the emergency room, seeking reassurance that you are not ill from physicians, friends, and family, and…
