Lately, I’ve been noticing something about the way money affects my mental state. When our family budget starts running low, I feel it almost immediately. Not just as stress, but as a kind of heaviness that settles over everything. My motivation drops. I move slower. Sometimes, I even find…
HemoWife - a Column by Allyx Formalejo
My husband, Jared, first set foot in a gym just months into our relationship. It wasn’t some grand fitness decision — just curiosity. What would it feel like to work out? That question led us to a small, hole-in-the-wall bakal gym near his university — a Filipino term…
Before I ever met my husband, Jared, he had learned to adapt well to having severe hemophilia B and seizures. But one moment from his childhood still finds its way back to him. On the first day of fifth grade, his teacher told the class there would be a…
Sleep has always been a troublesome subject for me. Even as a child, it felt optional — something I could push aside in favor of thoughts, ideas, or whatever held my attention in the moment. In high school, that tendency only intensified. Sleep became negotiable, almost expendable, as if I…
The pool was loud in the way summer pools usually are — whistles, splashes, kids calling out to each other, coaches raising their voices above the noise, parents chatting on the sidelines. Our 7-year-old daughter stood at the edge, waiting for her instructor to guide her into the Olympic-sized pool.
A recent study found that people with hemophilia who report better mental health may be more likely to adhere to their prophylactic treatment. It’s a compelling idea — that mental well-being can influence how consistently someone follows a care plan. But as I read through it, I couldn’t…
One of the stranger skills I’ve developed in my marriage to someone with hemophilia isn’t medical — it’s domestic. It’s the art of removing blood stains. To be fair, I already had some experience dealing with blood simply by being a female person who menstruates. But when you’re married…
When people think about hemophilia, they usually think of joint, muscle, and sometimes soft-tissue bleeds. But one of the most dangerous complications occurs elsewhere: the brain. My husband, Jared, had a brain bleed as a child. It’s the kind of event people often imagine as…
Recently, news about a deal on airfare started making the rounds in our group chats. Here in the Philippines, these sales tend to appear when people start thinking about summer travel. Cheap fares, beautiful destinations, and the thrill of booking something spontaneous can be hard to resist. Some of my…
When my husband, Jared, has a hemophilia bleed, we know what to do. We immediately implement the RICE method of Rest, Ice, Compression, and Elevation. We also add to that list factor infusions and the monitoring of Jared’s condition. Hemophilia is complex, but there’s a strategy for managing it.
